912 TX HWY 37 South | Mount Vernon | TX 75457

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July 20, 2021

To our Friends and Neighbors,

To ensure the safety of those we serve and our staff during this time of the COVID-19 Pandemic, Collvins Memorial Funeral Home will continue to adhere to the highest standards of cleanliness and disinfection of the facilities.

If arrangement conferences are to be made in person, we ask that the conference be limited to immediate family. If you or a loved one live out of town or are unable to attend due to travel restrictions, we will make every effort to accommodate your involvement in the arrangement conference via phone, email and/or Facetime.

Collvins Memorial Funeral Home will address public visitations and funeral services per the family’s wishes.  Our commitment to the families and community is to continue to provide the same high level of care and services to you all as we have in the past.

 Collvins Memorial Funeral Home is actively working to provide alternative avenues for the community to be a part of the funeral services during this time and may include Facebook Live, Live Streaming or other possible streaming services. We will continue to conduct graveside services for burial and cremation under these same guidelines.

Our website www.collvinsmemorialfh.com and our Facebook page are always available to read obituaries and to leave your condolences to support the families we are serving.

As we respond to the Coronavirus (COVID-19), we want to assure you that Collvins Memorial Funeral Home will remain active and prepared to serve our community.

The health and welfare of the families we serve, along with our staff is our highest priority. We still believe that supporting one another at a time of loss is of utmost importance. We will continue to closely monitor any and all developments concerning this situation. We urge everyone to follow good personal hygiene, actively try to stay healthy and if you or a loved one are ill, please seek medical advice and stay home.

Please feel free to contact us with any questions or concerns; we are available 24 hours a day. Thank you for trusting and allowing us to serve you and your family in a time of need. God bless you all.

Sincerely,

Stefanie and Robby Collvins and Staff

Collvins Memorial Funeral Home


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Talking to Children

helping each other cope


When you are faced with the death of someone you love, it is natural to struggle when coping with your emotions. You may feel distressed, shaken, and preoccupied. You might also seek isolation to cope with your own grief. But if you have children, remember that — perhaps more than ever — they need your support at this time. Their presence is a good reminder of the important people in your life that make it beautiful.

Grief in Children


Depending on the age and the maturity level of a child, their reaction to the death of a loved one varies. As a child ages and matures, there will be times when they will revisit the memory of losing a loved one.  It is important that you provide support during this difficult time.

For you to have a clearer picture of how children feel and react to the loss of someone who’s been a significant part of their life, we’ve provided an overview based on their age.

Infants and Toddlers


Do not underestimate the ability of infants and toddlers to feel a loss. Although they might still not have the ability to understand what’s going on, they can comprehend loss through the absence of someone they’ve gotten used to spending intimate times with, through an interruption to their usual routine, and through the stress and grief they sense from their parents and the people around them. To help a child at this age cope with this situation, double your efforts in cuddling and holding them — this helps give a feeling of security and love despite the absence of someone.

Younger Children


Children at this age might have difficulties differentiating reality from fantasy, and even more so, the permanence of death. You might feel that using euphemisms to explain the situation to your child may be helpful, but that is not the case. Using terms such as “gone away,” “sleeping,” or “lost” might confuse your young child and could give them fears or negative thoughts. For example, if a young child is told that a deceased loved one has “gone away,” it might make him/her feel abandoned or rejected. A young child might also think that it’s probably his/her fault. If you tell them that the person in the casket is only “sleeping,” they might have fears about not waking up again when they sleep at night. When talking to your child about the death of a loved one, it is best to be honest and use simple and direct words that they can understand. 

Older Children


At this stage, children are more likely to understand abstract concepts such as death. They are also at a point when they have more knowledge about how the body works, so be prepared with specific questions they might have. It is very important that your answers are always factual and specific. They might also be more vulnerable and insecure at this time because, aside from the death of a loved one, they are also going through a lot of changes — so give them sufficient opportunities to have conversations with you so they can express their feelings of pain and grief.

teenagers


Because of their growing independence, teenagers usually feel the need to keep their feelings of grief to themselves to show the people around them that they’re grown up and can control how they feel. But because this is most often not the case, they are more likely to engage in high-risk behavior because they are unable to properly express their feelings, especially after the death of a loved one. Although they might feel more comfortable talking to their peers and friends, do not feel disappointed. If anything, this will help them open up their feelings and will make way for healing. This doesn’t mean that you no longer talk to them. Create opportunities where you can talk about the loss, listen to their concerns, empathize with them, and assure them that you are there to help them cope.


While you might feel it will be helpful to hide your grief to protect your child, a lot of people have found that being honest about their sorrow is better. It helps their children see that grieving is natural, normal, and healing. Being able to talk about the deceased person, especially the positive qualities of the person, may make way for faster healing.


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