912 TX HWY 37 South | Mount Vernon | TX 75457

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July 20, 2021

To our Friends and Neighbors,

To ensure the safety of those we serve and our staff during this time of the COVID-19 Pandemic, Collvins Memorial Funeral Home will continue to adhere to the highest standards of cleanliness and disinfection of the facilities.

If arrangement conferences are to be made in person, we ask that the conference be limited to immediate family. If you or a loved one live out of town or are unable to attend due to travel restrictions, we will make every effort to accommodate your involvement in the arrangement conference via phone, email and/or Facetime.

Collvins Memorial Funeral Home will address public visitations and funeral services per the family’s wishes.  Our commitment to the families and community is to continue to provide the same high level of care and services to you all as we have in the past.

 Collvins Memorial Funeral Home is actively working to provide alternative avenues for the community to be a part of the funeral services during this time and may include Facebook Live, Live Streaming or other possible streaming services. We will continue to conduct graveside services for burial and cremation under these same guidelines.

Our website www.collvinsmemorialfh.com and our Facebook page are always available to read obituaries and to leave your condolences to support the families we are serving.

As we respond to the Coronavirus (COVID-19), we want to assure you that Collvins Memorial Funeral Home will remain active and prepared to serve our community.

The health and welfare of the families we serve, along with our staff is our highest priority. We still believe that supporting one another at a time of loss is of utmost importance. We will continue to closely monitor any and all developments concerning this situation. We urge everyone to follow good personal hygiene, actively try to stay healthy and if you or a loved one are ill, please seek medical advice and stay home.

Please feel free to contact us with any questions or concerns; we are available 24 hours a day. Thank you for trusting and allowing us to serve you and your family in a time of need. God bless you all.

Sincerely,

Stefanie and Robby Collvins and Staff

Collvins Memorial Funeral Home


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Funeral Etiquette

A Helpful Guide


When someone you know passes away, your first instinct is to offer encouragement, help, and support to those affected — but you may not be sure what to say or do. It's okay to feel this way.

Does it matter what I wear? Can I bring the children? What should I say to the family of the deceased? When should I visit? Collvins Memorial Funeral Home offers guidance on the proper etiquette of visitations and funerals, so you'll feel more comfortable and prepared for attending services.

What to say

It can be difficult to know what to say to the family of the deceased to express your sympathy. To begin, offer your condolences to the family. If you are comfortable, share a memory of the deceased. In this difficult time, sharing the joy of the deceased’s life can help comfort the bereaved. For example, “I was so sorry to hear of Mary’s passing.  She was always such a wonderful friend to me."


What to wear

When attending a memorial service or funeral, dress in dark and subdued colors, such as dark blues, grays, browns, and black. Be sure to dress simply and conservatively. Men are encouraged to wear a jacket and tie paired with dress shoes, while women should choose either a dress or a suit. Any jewelry should be subtle and traditional.


Arriving

When attending a funeral or a service, do your best to be on time. Try to enter the facility as quietly as possible. If there are no ushers present, remember that the first few rows of seats are usually for the immediate family and close friends. Acquaintances should appropriately seat themselves in the middle or towards the rear.


When to visit

Immediately upon learning of a death, it is appropriate for family and close friends to go to the home of the bereaved to offer sympathy and support. This can be a very overwhelming time for a family. Offering to assist with child care, food preparation, receiving visitors, or service preparations can provide immense comfort during this difficult process.

The funeral home is the best place to visit the family to offer your condolences, as they are prepared for visitors at these services.


Flowers

Sending flowers is a wonderful way to express your sympathy to the family of the deceased, and can bring comfort in a difficult time. Flowers are a meaningful gift that can be enjoyed during and after the funeral service.

Floral arrangements and plants can be sent to the funeral home to be present at services, or sent to the home of the family directly.

What not to say

Try not to give comments that minimize the loss, such as "It's probably for the best, because he was suffering too much," or "I've been in your shoes myself."  These will not provide comfort to the bereaved

Wait for the family to discuss the cause of death. Do not bring it up yourself.


Keep the line moving

Visitations can be very emotional, especially when speaking with the family of the deceased. If there is a line to speak with the bereaved and view the casket, be conscious of keeping the line moving. After passing through the line, be sure to stand to the side to continue conversation, or allow the family member to continue to greet guests. The family will often be more available to speak following the conclusion of the service.


Mobile phone use

Smart phones should be turned off or silenced completely during the service. Checking your phone is noticeable and is a distraction to those who are trying to pay their respects. If you must return a message or receive a call, exit the service quietly.


Children

Allowing a child to attend a memorial or funeral service can help them say goodbye to a friend or loved one. It is important to not force a child to go, but instead encourage them to share in this tribute with the rest of the family. Before attending, help prepare them by explaining what they might see at the service.


Gifts

This can be a very draining time for a family. The gift of food is a kind gesture that the family will deeply appreciate and help alleviate the stress of funeral planning and mourning.

Remembering children in the family is a thoughtful gesture, as this is often a difficult time for them as well. A small gift like a stuffed animal or a book is best.

Time is precious. Helping with household tasks ease the family's burden. Caring for pets, driving children to school, running errands, or helping around the house are wonderful ways to help the family.


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